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What if maturity isn’t choosing sides—but learning to live inside the tension?<!–

When God is Gentle and Fierce

What if maturity isn’t choosing sides—but learning to live inside the tension?

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There is a road, even in vastness and isolation.

Dempster Highway, Yukon—one of the places where God shaped me.

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A Thought Worth Holding

There’s a line often attributed to F. Scott Fitzgerald:

“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.”

Call it intelligence… or call it maturity.
Either way, it sounds a lot like the Psalms.

You learn a lot when you stand alone for a while… and don’t walk away.

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A Night in the North

Years ago, in the far north Yukon, I was the only one who openly identified as a Christian in my work setting.

Evenings often found us gathered and relaxing, playing shuffleboard, pool, laughing, and, in the summer, enjoying a view that stretched for miles across the mountains.

I didn’t withdraw.
I didn’t blend in.
I just… stayed present.

One night, a truck driver told an off-color joke.

The room went quiet. Finally, someone said, “Hey, you shouldn’t say that—Rick’s here.”

He looked around and said, “Yeah, so?”

“Well, Rick’s a Christian.”

He shrugged and replied:
“Don’t Christians laugh?”
We all laughed.

And then he went on: “Besides, Rick is the one who told me that joke, years ago, in another camp.”

Something in that moment felt real, like a life slowly changing, without needing to prove it.
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Living Without Losing Yourself

That night taught me something I didn’t have words for yet:

  • You can be different without being distant.
  • You can be fully present without losing your identity.
  • You can live inside tension… and remain whole.

Different… but not distant.

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Enter Psalm 18

Psalm 18 is not calm.
It is not tidy.
It is thunder… fire… rescue… and battle.

One moment:
“The cords of death entangled me…”

The next:
“The Lord is my rock, my fortress, my deliverer…”

And then suddenly:

  • the earth trembles
  • smoke rises
  • God moves heaven and earth

It reads like a storm breaking open the sky.


The Line That Changes Everything

And then—almost quietly—David says:
“Your gentleness has made me great.”

That’s the tension.

The God who shakes mountains…
is the same God who handles a human heart with gentleness.

Not one or the other.

Both.


Strength Without Harshness

Psalm 18 pushes even further.

David speaks of victory over enemies in language that feels uncomfortable.

But when you look at his life, you see something different.

Twice, David had the chance to kill Saul.
Twice, he walked away.
He refused revenge.

David trusted God to deal with what he could not.

So this Psalm is not about personal vengeance.

It’s about trusting God with justice.


The Tension We All Feel

Most of us drift to one side or the other:

  • We either become hard and reactive
  • Or we become soft and passive

Psalm 18 refuses both.
It calls us to something deeper:

  • strength without cruelty
  • gentleness without weakness
  • conviction without arrogance

Jesus Lived This Way

This isn’t just David.
This is Jesus.

  • gentle with the broken
  • fierce with hypocrisy
  • loving enemies
  • speaking truth without flinching

Not either/or.
Always both.


 

And Then Came the Early Church

When the early church scattered from Jerusalem, they carried this same tension into the world.

They did not disappear into the culture.
And they did not withdraw from it.

They lived differently,
but they stayed present.

And slowly, quietly, powerfully…

communities began to change.

Like yeast in dough, their lives worked from the inside out.
Not through force. Not through distance.
But through a steady, distinct presence.

Different… but not distant.
That’s where real transformation begins.

That is how the Kingdom spreads.

Some people clear the way for the rest.

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The Road for Today

Here’s a simple invitation this week:

Notice the tension you’re living in.
•    joy and sorrow 
•    strength and fatigue 
•    clarity and confusion 
•    conviction and compassion 

Don’t rush to resolve it.

Bring it to God.

Let Him hold what you cannot.

And carry this line with you:
“Your gentleness has made me great.”
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A Quiet Ending

When the storm is loud and the pressure is real,
the road does not disappear.

It is still there,
steady beneath your feet.

The road forward is not found by choosing sides,
but by staying close to the One who holds them both.

With gratitude,
Rick & Deanna

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Rick Bergen (Ph.D., Organizational Leadership) and Deanna Bergen (M.A.) serve in church planting, leadership mentoring, and cross-cultural mission.

Parents of four daughters, three sons-in-law, and three grandchildren, they believe healthy leaders are lighthouses in the storm.

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